Menopause can be a significant transition in a woman’s life, and in a marriage or long-term relationship.

It can affect sleep, mood, confidence, energy, communication, physical comfort and intimacy. As a husband or male partner, you may want to help but feel unsure about what to say, what to do, or how to respond when things suddenly feel different.

I understand that uncertainty because I have experienced it myself.

That is why I am pleased to announce my upcoming workshop for husbands and male partners: “Supporting Your Wife Through the Menopause.”

The workshop is based on the lessons, conversations and personal experiences behind my book, When Love Meets Menopause. It will offer a safe, practical and supportive space for men who want to understand more, communicate better and remain emotionally connected during this important stage of life.

Full details, including the date, time, online platform, price and booking arrangements, are coming soon. For now, I invite you to register your interest, visit Your Success and watch this space for announcements.

Why I am creating this workshop

When a wife is experiencing menopause symptoms, it can be difficult for both partners to know how to navigate the changes.

You may notice that she is more tired, anxious, frustrated, withdrawn or emotionally overwhelmed. You may also experience changes in affection, intimacy or communication. At times, you might feel confused, rejected or helpless.

None of this means that your relationship is failing.

Menopause is a real physical and emotional transition, and every woman experiences it differently. The more you understand, the more confidently and compassionately you can respond.

I created this workshop because many men want to support their wives but have never been given the information, language or confidence to do so. A husband does not need to know all the answers. He does need to be willing to learn, listen and stay present.

What I learned through writing When Love Meets Menopause

Writing my book gave me the opportunity to reflect honestly on my own experience as a husband.

I explored the moments when I got things wrong, the times when I did not understand what was happening, and the lessons I learned about patience, communication and connection. I also considered the importance of looking after my own emotional wellbeing rather than ignoring my feelings.

The book is not a medical textbook. It is a personal and practical guide for men who want to understand menopause from a partner’s perspective.

It covers important areas including:

These are also the themes I will bring into the online workshop.

Printed guide for men supporting their wives through menopause

Understanding what menopause may involve

One of the most helpful things you can do is develop a basic understanding of menopause and perimenopause.

Symptoms can include hot flushes, night sweats, disrupted sleep, fatigue, anxiety, low mood, irritability, brain fog, changes in libido and physical discomfort. Symptoms can vary considerably, and some women may experience several at once.

It is important not to use this information to label or dismiss your wife. Menopause is not an excuse to ignore hurtful behaviour, and it should never become a punchline. Understanding is there to help you respond with empathy and have better conversations.

Reliable information can make a real difference. The NHS inform guide to supporting someone through the menopause is a useful place to start. If symptoms are causing significant concern or disruption, encourage your wife to speak with a qualified healthcare professional.

Listen before you try to solve the problem

Many men, myself included, have been conditioned to look for solutions.

If somebody we love is struggling, our instinct may be to offer advice, suggest an answer or tell them what they should do next. Sometimes that is useful. Often, the person simply needs to feel heard.

Try asking:

Then give her time to answer.

Listening does not mean that you agree with everything. It means that you are showing her that her experience matters. A calm, attentive conversation can be more supportive than a long explanation or a quick attempt to make everything better.

Practise patience without losing yourself

Patience is not always easy, particularly when you are tired, worried or unsure what is happening.

There may be moments when a conversation becomes tense or your wife reacts in a way that surprises you. Before responding, pause. Take a breath. Ask yourself whether the situation needs an immediate argument, or whether it needs calm, space and a conversation later.

Patience does not mean becoming invisible or pretending that your feelings do not matter. It means choosing a thoughtful response rather than reacting from frustration.

This is where ideas from mental resilience training can be valuable. Resilience is not about suppressing emotions or simply putting up with difficulty. It is about developing the awareness and practical tools to manage your response, recover from challenging moments and make better choices.

That is something I will explore during the workshop.

Offer practical support

Support is often shown through small, consistent actions.

If your wife is exhausted after a poor night’s sleep, taking care of a household task may help more than saying, “You should get some rest.” If she is struggling with hot flushes, helping to make the bedroom more comfortable can show that you are paying attention.

Practical support might include:

These actions are not about treating your wife as incapable. They are about recognising that she may be carrying more than usual and making it clear that she is not carrying it alone.

Together, these ideas can form a personal menopause toolkit, a collection of knowledge, questions, supportive phrases and practical habits that you can return to when you are unsure what to do.

Connection and intimacy may need to change

Menopause can affect intimacy in ways that are difficult for couples to discuss.

Changes in desire, discomfort, tiredness, confidence and body image can all influence physical closeness. It is understandable if you feel uncertain or hurt, but pressure, criticism or silence can create greater distance.

A better approach is to keep the conversation open and gentle.

Ask how she is feeling. Talk about what feels comfortable. Make room for affection that is not focused on sex, such as holding hands, cuddling, massage, shared activities or simply spending uninterrupted time together.

Intimacy is not only about physical contact. It is also about feeling safe, valued and wanted. When you continue to show affection without making demands, you help protect the connection between you.

If physical symptoms are causing pain or concern, encourage your wife to discuss them with a healthcare professional. There may be support and treatment options available.

Your emotional wellbeing matters too

One of the most important lessons I learned is that husbands and partners have emotional needs as well.

You may feel worried, frustrated, lonely or unsure how to help. You may miss the closeness you once had or feel guilty for wanting support yourself. Those feelings do not make you selfish or uncaring.

Ignoring them can make it harder to remain patient and present.

Looking after yourself might involve:

Good support is not about one person giving endlessly while the other receives. It is about creating a relationship where both people can be honest, respected and supported.

This is also where professional development coaching can offer useful principles. Although coaching is often associated with work and leadership, the skills of self-awareness, active listening, emotional regulation and purposeful action are valuable in every part of life.

Learning from other men

One of the most encouraging aspects of the workshop will be the opportunity to learn from other men’s experiences.

You may think that you are the only husband feeling confused or out of his depth. You are not. Many men care deeply about their wives but have never had a place to ask questions or speak openly about the impact menopause can have on a relationship.

Hearing how other men have approached communication, patience, intimacy and self-care can provide reassurance and fresh ideas. You may also discover that a small change in your own response can create a meaningful change at home.

There is no perfect husband’s guide to menopause. Every relationship is different. However, there are practical steps you can take to become more informed, more compassionate and more confident.

Full workshop details are coming soon

I am currently preparing the online workshop and will share full details as soon as they are confirmed.

The date, time, platform, price and booking link are not yet available, so please watch this space rather than relying on information from any other source.

If this workshop may be helpful to you, or to another husband, partner or friend, please visit www.yoursuccesssolutions.com to register your interest and follow the latest announcements.

You can also read more about my personal approach to coaching and support on the About Me page.

In the meantime, my book, When Love Meets Menopause, is available on Amazon. It is written from the heart of a husband who has learned that understanding, patience and honest communication can help couples find their way through change.

You do not need to have all the answers.

Start by listening. Keep learning. Offer practical support. Look after yourself too.

Most importantly, remind your wife: and yourself: that menopause is something you can approach with care, courage and connection.